There were hints of this as a young child. Let's take a peek at a little vignette of when I was about 6 years old, playing that classic Hasbro Game :"SORRY" with a few older kids...
"Karen, you picked that card, lucky you! Now you can take anyone else's guy and put yours there!"
Gee, this was fun. I could actually win over these big kids!
"Okay, now that you moved your guy, you have to say "SORRY" really loudly!!"
I thought, uh, I don't think so. Why should I say sorry? I didn't do anything wrong. I picked the sorry card and made the necessary move. It was part of the game.
So I said, "No. I'm not going to say sorry."
They all looked at each other and then the eldest said,
"But you have to Karen, it's in the rules." (*I just checked of course, and it isn't - almost 40 years later and it still smarts!)
I shook my head. No way was I going to say "SORRY" for doing everything right.
So they all started chanting "SOR-RY, SOR-RY, SOR-RY!!!!!!"
And I started to bawl.
I never did say sorry.
A tragic tale. To this day, it remains very hard for me to say I'm sorry.
*****
So the point of this story? Turns out my son has been a lunch monitor since the school year started. And apparently he rocks at it... so much so that when he mentioned that he might not continue into the next term, the Grade 2 class wrote him a bunch of "Thank You" cards.
Only they weren't so much 'Thank you" as "Sorry" cards (as in "Sorry I was loud", "Sorry I was bad", "Sorry I didn't listen")
I wouldn't have believed it if I didn't see it for myself.
They all looked at each other and then the eldest said,
"But you have to Karen, it's in the rules." (*I just checked of course, and it isn't - almost 40 years later and it still smarts!)
I shook my head. No way was I going to say "SORRY" for doing everything right.
So they all started chanting "SOR-RY, SOR-RY, SOR-RY!!!!!!"
And I started to bawl.
I never did say sorry.
A tragic tale. To this day, it remains very hard for me to say I'm sorry.
*****
So the point of this story? Turns out my son has been a lunch monitor since the school year started. And apparently he rocks at it... so much so that when he mentioned that he might not continue into the next term, the Grade 2 class wrote him a bunch of "Thank You" cards.
Only they weren't so much 'Thank you" as "Sorry" cards (as in "Sorry I was loud", "Sorry I was bad", "Sorry I didn't listen")
I wouldn't have believed it if I didn't see it for myself.
I guess there is hope for the next generation.
****
A Denouement:
I recounted my "sorry" boardgame tale to my brother and sister-in-law about a week before the holidays. My brother, being more than a few years younger than me, wasn't yet around to witness my traumatic experience firsthand. They were so enamoured with my story that for Christmas, lo and behold, they gave our family this...
Thanks little bro. You're so awesome.
