Monday, June 09, 2008

Doctor, doctor

Statistics seen on a recent Good Morning Canada broadcast:

  • 600 000 couples in Ontario are suffering from infertility

  • 90 million couples worldwide are experiencing infertility


About this time 10 years ago...

Sitting in the fertility doctor’s office, it hit me.

We are infertile. For a lack of any better way to think about it ... it sucked big time.

I had been focused on the school thing for the previous few months; getting the first term of the program under my belt was a good thing. Not bad timing at all, providing me with a distraction from this bigger worry.

Ian came with me to the doc’s. The lone man among a room full of women. It was rather obvious why we were there. The doctor was an ob/gyn, a specialist in endometriosis but he also dabbled in fertility treatments. Endometriosis is often a cause of infertility.

The doctor was punctual. We were called into his office, and he greeted us with a wide grin; a quiet man, with an ear-to-ear smile. And I’m not the only one who’s noticed this. He was voted “Smiliest Fertility Doctor” in this publication not too many years ago. The fact that they even had this as a category boggles my mind (talk about being bang on; it was actually a pretty quirky list of the "best of the city" and I could laugh about it).

He took a look at my records while we sat in front of him. He asked us a few questions, noted our ages and lifestyle. Then he announced that he had full confidence that we would get pregnant. This was even before getting into any real “testing” of us. He just knew … and looking at the wall of fame behind us (babies, babies everywhere) … we were encouraged.

So here was the plan. We’d do some investigation of our status quo; check my cycles, BBT etc, bloodwork on both of us. Check the man’s Spencer stats (you really should trademark the name, Xbox).

Next steps after that, if still not preggars:
1/ Hysterosalpingogram (HSG). Can help clear any tubes while they’re looking for potential blockage, don’t you know.
2/ Then consider drug therapy (Clomid).
3/ If drugs alone don’t work, add cycle monitoring consisting of blood work and ultrasounds of the transvaginal variety (gulp). And more drugs.
4/ If no success there, then we move into the Assisted Reproduction Technology arena. IUI’s, IVF, ICSI, GIFT … enough acronyms for you? But this last step, don’t even think about as we probably wouldn’t have to go there (yet...)

First things first. Take this graph, go home, be diligent with your temperature, and fill it out the form. Do your thing. Come back after the cycle and then we’ll talk.

He told us we should be pregnant in a matter of months. It was nice to hear that from someone, especially a professional.

We left there feeling great. Oddly excited. A new start. Some renewed hope.

(here comes the happy music ...)


Kami said...

That must have felt so great after having so much heartache about it up to that point.


I am on the edge of my seat waiting to find out WHEN you finally got that exciting news about L :-)

Xbox4NappyRash said...

Oh those statistics.

1 in 6 couples today, rising to 1 in 4 with 20 years.

WHY is there not more exposure?

Keep it up.

and AGAIN, great track choice.

Laski said...

I know that feeling. I felt that way since I was first told pregnancy would probably NOT be an option for me. Over ten years later when I finally decided WHY NOT just try, I was sitting in the office (after no success for some time), pamphlets in hand, drug script in hand, and then I was asked, "Now, you're POSITIVE you aren't pregnant, right?" Well, four tests don't lie, right? We took a test anyway (it was free, why not?). And guess what . . . nine months later . . . little J.

I'm with Kami . . . on the edge of my seat!

Maggie, Dammit said...

I'm so glad you and Xbox are connected. See the hope you bring?

Pinks and Blues said...

Yes, the statistics are a bit disconcerting. But finding a physician who does see a light at the end of the tunnel (pun intended, I guess)... makes a light at the end of the tunnel seem possible.

I know 4 women who are struggling with fertility concerns, and I am sending them to your blog. Your honesty, your humor and your optimism are very, very refreshing!

Keep 'em coming!

Sharon - Pinks & Blues

Ed (zoesdad) said...

What an interesting story. I hope your kids always know how badly you wanted them and the steps you took to make their presence in your life possible.

gmcountrymama said...

Wow, a doctor that smiles. How great is that. I gave the doctor that delivered my daughter the "devil doctor". He pretty much just frowned and yelled a lot.

C. K. said...

Oh wow. I didn't realize how complicated and diligent people have to be in order to get pregnant. That's a lot of things to be mindful of.

Sandy C. said...

"Smiliest Fertility Doctor?"- whoa. I can only imagine the other categories.

The statistics are so startling, and I'm sure the numbers are only growing.

Can't wait to read the next installment!

C said...

Oh, gosh Karen! This post had me bawling my eyes out! Yeah, I'm one of those weepy wusses who cry while watching Tim Horton's commercials on TV!

I had no idea that the stats were that high!!!! Truly mind blowing!

I love reading your posts. You and Ian are so blessed to have such a beautiful family! Liam and Little G are awesome kiddos!

April said...

Sounds like it's much better to go to the Smiliest doc than the Frowniest :)

Colleen said...

Dood. I'm luhvin your music choices while I read your baby history. Thanks for the good toons!


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