"So, let's talk about what we're going to talk about...."
Believe it or not, I used to ask my husband this when we were just DATING. And it used to just bug him to no end.
It's inevitable that couples have the odd "I'm bored" phase when you've been together a while. I used to fret about that. So every so often I would ask him a really stupid question out of left field, like "hey, do you like frozen vegetables?" as if we'd just met. Only this was after we'd been together for 5 years. I'm certifiable, I know.
So in anticipation of the upcoming anniversary "couple time" weekend, I thought I'd stir up the pot a bit.
"What do you mean, what are we going to talk about? You're nuts!" he replied with a smile in his voice.
Why do some couples just work? Couples who on paper or at face-value should just not gel? I'm the quieter, introverted, half-glass empty, anal-retentive geeky ying to his social, optimistic, laissez-faire confident yang.
Here is a list of 13 reasons why I think we work as a couple:
1/ We have similar taste in music.
2/ He buys me Mojito mix and Pomtinis. I buy him beer and Grey Goose. Really, the alcohol doesn't hurt.
3/ We have a similar demented sense of humour. We can make each other laugh until we cry. And often no one else gets it.
4/ He puts up with my OCD tendencies. I let him live even if he puts the butter in the wrong compartment in the fridge.
5/ He's the good cop - I'm the bad cop. The kids still love us.
6/ I'm the firstborn; he's the baby.
7/ I like fair-haired pale-skin guys.
8/ He's got a thing for Asian women (well, since he met me)
9/ We know if we're arguing, we're hungry. We eat to settle disputes.
10/ He loses his keys, sunglasses, cellphone; I find them.
11/ I'm a packrat; he's a purger ... but then I check his purge pile and just re-pack it.
12/ We like each other. A lot.
13/...which is, I think, a separate entity from the love thing. We're lucky, we've got that too. We just have to keep reminding ourselves of that.