Thursday, August 14, 2008

Thursday Thirteen - Coupledom

"So, let's talk about what we're going to talk about...."

Believe it or not, I used to ask my husband this when we were just DATING. And it used to just bug him to no end.

It's inevitable that couples have the odd "I'm bored" phase when you've been together a while. I used to fret about that. So every so often I would ask him a really stupid question out of left field, like "hey, do you like frozen vegetables?" as if we'd just met. Only this was after we'd been together for 5 years. I'm certifiable, I know.

So in anticipation of the upcoming anniversary "couple time" weekend, I thought I'd stir up the pot a bit.

"What do you mean, what are we going to talk about? You're nuts!" he replied with a smile in his voice.

Why do some couples just work? Couples who on paper or at face-value should just not gel? I'm the quieter, introverted, half-glass empty, anal-retentive geeky ying to his social, optimistic, laissez-faire confident yang.

Here is a list of 13 reasons why I think we work as a couple:

1/ We have similar taste in music.
2/ He buys me Mojito mix and Pomtinis. I buy him beer and Grey Goose. Really, the alcohol doesn't hurt.
3/ We have a similar demented sense of humour. We can make each other laugh until we cry. And often no one else gets it.
4/ He puts up with my OCD tendencies. I let him live even if he puts the butter in the wrong compartment in the fridge.
5/ He's the good cop - I'm the bad cop. The kids still love us.
6/ I'm the firstborn; he's the baby.
7/ I like fair-haired pale-skin guys.
8/ He's got a thing for Asian women (well, since he met me)
9/ We know if we're arguing, we're hungry. We eat to settle disputes.
10/ He loses his keys, sunglasses, cellphone; I find them.
11/ I'm a packrat; he's a purger ... but then I check his purge pile and just re-pack it.
12/ We like each other. A lot.
13/...which is, I think, a separate entity from the love thing. We're lucky, we've got that too. We just have to keep reminding ourselves of that.


April said...

That's so awesome. Mind if I hate you now?

Joyce said...

It sounds like you two are the perfect complement to one another. I'm visiting via Thursday 13. Glad to meet you. :)

Kathryn said...

What an awesome TT!!! I love that.
I think a big thing for hubby and I is that we make each other laugh. All the time. Very important.
Oh yeah. And the alcohol thing too. ;)

Melissa said...

Nice new look for the blog! Isn't her website fun?

And you are so right about the getting each other and liking each other parts. When my spouse and I were dating, nobody thought it would work except us because we already knew we "got" each other.

Have a great weekend!

Frances said...

I know where your coming from me and my hubby for all intensive purposes should not work. But we do. I think the best relationships in the world work because of their yin & yang make up. Besides if I was in a marriage with someone who was just like me. Where's the Challenge? It would be oh so boring. (and messy)

Miss said...

You know what I'm going to say.

I want this. You two are an inspiration because you just showed me that it DOES exist.

C said...

Sounds like a match made in Heaven to me! ;)

I love that you still let him live even if he puts the butter in the wrong compartment in the fridge! I think that may be a "husband thing" since mine does the same. I won't even get into the leaving his clothes on the floor and him wondering why the cat goes and pees on it! Grrr! I get so annoyed with him leaving stuff all over the place, but he was a bachelor for a long time before we got married two years ago! ;)

Ginaagain said...

"We know if we're arguing, we're hungry." LOL This is a common problem in my house too! Your list is great. I think #12/13 is the key to a truly happy marriage. Have a great weekend!

ALF said...

Sounds like a perfect match!

NurseExec said...

I loved your TT list--ain't it grand to have a wonderful partner? Drop by anytime!

Kami said...

Yes, it's official, you two are perfect for eachother!

And alcohol helps over here too ;-)

Badness Jones said... asked him that question when you were still dating and he still married you? That IS love!! LOL! Hubs and I used to talk all the time, about we just talk about the kids. I'm looking forward to getting past this stage!

Immoral Matriarch said...

LOL @ #11!

Beck said...

Being happily married is such a funny, funny thing - WHY some couples work so well is really hard to articulate, isn't it?

Neighbor said...

I think you have hit Fran and I's relationship right on the head. Except the roles are reversed and I'm not Asian.


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